As the college counselor, I celebrate every acceptance and mourn every non-acceptance because I have become very invested in each student and their individual path to college. And each person has their own individual path for sure. I want the students to be happy, get what they want and need, and have a wonderful college experience at a college that is a good fit for them. Also, that’s my job - to help them get to the place where they have viable college acceptances at places that are a good fit - financially, socially, geographically, academically, athletically, and in every other way you can imagine. This is what everyone at North Cross School is working toward from my perspective as the college counselor.
While I have your attention, let me share some of my thoughts to help everyone get through these changing times in a positive, sensitive, thoughtful, and respectful way and remind you all to continue to keep the best interests of our students at heart.
- Keep in mind that college choices are very personal, and each student and family has a set of factors that will dictate that child’s college choice.
- Choosing a college is, for most teenage children, the opportunity to make their first big life choice. Let’s honor their decisions and celebrate their bright futures.
- If you feel the need to voice your opinions about another’s college choices, it is best to do this in private or, even better, not at all. Things have recently been said to or about students and parents that, while not meant to be mean and hurtful, did cause pain and insult.
- Never speak negatively about a college - in my professional organization, saying bad things about another college or school is actually an honor violation.
- Think of the seniors’ parents. These parents are already dealing with the realization that their child is about to leave the nest, and they don’t need any comments from others adding to their stress right now. This is a tough time in a family’s life. Big changes are coming; and as we all know, change is good, but it can be scary.
North Cross is a positive, caring community, and my hope is that we can all work together to support and celebrate our seniors in these last two months we have with them. They deserve that.
Director of College Counseling